Don’t Fight Your Wife, Fight The Devil
It would be very pathetic and spiritual foolishness for Adam to start fighting his wife in the bitterness of anger, when they needed to know how to forget the past that God had decided to forget, and join hands together to fight the devil, in order to make sure that God’s intention for their marriage would come to pass against satan: for God to have said to satan, “I will put enmity Between you and the woman, And between your seed and her seed; He shall bruise your head, and you shall bruise His heel” (Gen. 3:15), indicates that He still would need the cooperation of Adam and his wife. This is a pointer that marriage must be intact in order for the purpose of God to be fully achieved.
O! how many men have lost their divinely packaged favour because of impatience and disobedience to God’s instruction.
Treat your wife better so God won’t block your ways. (1 Pet. 3:7; Mal. 2:11-17; Mark 11:25-26)
THE SOVEREIGNTY OF GOD
Are you one of those who do not support God forgiving an armed robber or a murderer? Consider what the dying Savior did on the cross by forgiving one of the dying thieves that hung on the cross next to Him. He said to him, “Today, thou shall be with me in Paradise” Right there on the cross, he was cleared of all his offenses, even if he had killed too many before.
Many a time, we become so critical in condemning others over their wrongs without thinking of ourselves, “It could have been me.” We will surely do better if we could just try and put ourselves in the other person’s shoes
I really appreciate the fact that I wasn’t there when Jesus was crucified; because I’m sure I would have joined several others who shouted, “Crucify Him! Crucify Him,’ or would have also said like the second thief that was also condemned to die, “If you are the Christ, save Yourself and us.” (Luke 23:39). All that Jesus needed was a broken heart which was clearly exhibited by the second criminal.
- For further explanation, let’s read this in the book of Luke Chapter 23:39-43:
- “Then one of the criminals who were hanged blasphemed Him, saying, If You are the Christ, save Yourself and us. 40.
- But the other, answering, rebuked him, saying, Do you not even fear God, seeing you are under the same condemnation?
- 41. And we indeed justly, for we receive the due reward of our deeds; but this Man has done nothing wrong. 42. Then he said to Jesus,
- Lord, remember me when You come into Your kingdom. 43. And Jesus said to him,
- Assuredly, I say to you, today you will be with Me in Paradise.
Who can question His mercy and wisdom for forgiveness when the terms for repentance are met? This condemned criminal, humbled himself, believed Jesus by calling Him Lord and thereby getting an express entry into God’s kingdom, while the other died in his sins because of pride and unbelief. Who are we not to forgive the person God has forgiven? After all, God didn’t use our own blood to atone for sin!
Other XYZ Of Anger
- Anger can manifest wrongly when one is in the flesh or when one is living carnally. When we lack the word of God in our lives, outburst of anger is inevitable.
- Anger outbursts can emanate when we live carelessly with people who do not have values for human life.
- When our love for God diminishes, anger is bound to develop.
- Lack of spiritual watchfulness may cause lack of control of anger.
- Unforgiveness thrives where there are incessant anger outbursts.
- Selfish people always like to get angry and fight.
- Anger can give birth to transfer aggression.
- Overly angry persons don’t cultivate patience.
- Anger can make one stutter or stammer within moments of outbursts.
- Anger can send body tremors mildly or rapidly depending on the tolerance level of the one offended and the amount of adrenalin released into the blood stream. This may activate the use of the hand to smite, slap, hit someone, shout or scream, or do the unimaginable.
- It can increase the heartbeat and blood pressure.
- People who don’t do anything to deal with their anger easily slip into hating their offenders.
When you unleash your anger toward your spouse against God’s leading, God can deny you access to your prayers and heaven, except you repent (Mark. 11:25-26). Why? God is love and he gave you His love through the gift of Jesus on the cross. And if you are born again, He has this forgiving love spread in your heart (Rom. 5:5). And when you lash out in anger and bitterness or malice, you are actually withholding God’s Love and dishonouring Him. That was what He told Moses when he allowed the people he led to influence him to disobey God’s instructions. God terminated his journey to the Promise land because he failed to control his anger;
Then the Lord spoke to Moses and Aaron, “Because you did not believe Me, to hallow Me in the eyes of the children of Israel, therefore you shall not bring this assembly into the land which I have given them.” (Num. 20:12).
Summary for Part 3
- Anger outbursts most times are usually a carryover from childhood.
- Lack of control of anger can lead to improper resignation.
- Unresolved anger has destroyed many marriages.
- Unmanaged anger has the attendant habits of addictions (dr@@@gs, al~~ols, gluttony); s$xu^lly perversions (masturbation, fornication and adultery); wrath, violence, and murder or suicide.
- Uncontrolled anger can cause someone to lose some respect.
- Too many moody people are inwardly angry persons.
- Angry persons end up blaming people instead of owning up for their weaknesses.
- Until you deal with the anger in you first, you will continue to change churches and/or friends.
- One fast way to breed unforgiveness is the failure to deal with anger.
- Hanging around someone who always flies off the handle can be very risky.
- Someone who doesn’t deal with his/her anger but enjoys being angry has pride deeply seated.
- Excessive release of adrenaline in trying to boost glucose energy level in the brain can stir up anger.
- A man or a woman who is overly angry will make a demon succeed to use his anger as its own nest.
- Be careful hurting a child of God when angry, because you might be hurting Jesus also.
- We cannot condemn the one God has forgiven; and we cannot tell Him who to forgive and not to forgive, because of His sovereignty.
